Anti-Oppressive Values & Practices

Anti-Oppressive Values - The Personal is Political

Hello dearest community member:

I am bi-racial Black/white mixed person. I am queer, trans & non-binary (learn about pronouns here and LGBT+ terms here). I am a survivor of multiple forms of violence, a person living with a disability (Complex-PTSD) who is also neuroatypical. I am caring for children, elders and community members and am informed by lifelong lack of access to financial resources and generational wealth. I am responsible for a huge amount of federal student loan debt due to my education. I am attempting to find my own way to thriving financially in the Bay Area.

I am tied to this geographical location as a born and raised San Franciscan and due to commitments to children, elders and community members. I have for a decade or longer provided support to community in response to police and state violence including free and sliding scale support for:

  • interpersonal conflicts (organizers, legal support and community members)

  • trauma healing practices & secondary trauma response healing practices

  • mindfulness and meditation practices

Though I have multiple and intersecting identities that result in experiences of harm and marginalization I still experience areas of privilege. I share this to model the importance of acknowledging not only where we experience harm from others, but also where we are at greatest risk of causing harm to others.

The privilege I experience comes in multiple forms: light skin due to my white ancestry, the ways that I may be perceived as/read as non-Black, as racially ambiguous, or white (read more about shifting your lens on racial multitudes here); presenting at times in a feminine fashion that may result in others perception of me as cisgender and as heterosexual/straight (femme erasure); the ways I am able bodied, and the disability conditions that I do not have. My access to United States citizenship. My age as a person fully in “the adult who should be listened to” stage of life and not yet to the senior citizen/elder who is more likely to be disregarded.

This isn’t a completely exhaustive list and are parts of my identity that are core to who I am and how I move through the world. The ways my identities rest in the liminal in-between space and multitudes cause me to be subject to erasure of my identities and a sense of not being seen when belonging is a core emotional need for all human beings. It also creates the ability to build bridges and hold the alchemy of conflict transformation within my very being. I offer a good faith effort to create a better and different world that creates less harm for all. My goal is to do as little harm as possible. To make commitments to equity that are actionable and to ask my clients to do the same. I pledge to strive toward that goal always.

Clients seeking to engage specifically in anti-racist work are encouraged to hire people from multiple identities and backgrounds and to prioritize BIPOC practitioners. Working with Transform Belonging does not absolve clients of a personal and professional responsibility to support BIPOC businesses and practitioners. Working with one of us is wonderful and none of us are free until all of us are free. Investment in BIPOC businesses and education must be consistent, ongoing and impactful. Working with Transform Belonging is not a substitute, nor pass for failure to engage the educational services of others. While I am magical being I am not your magical [insert applicable identity here]. Not sure what that means? Read or listen to this NPR interview and support the author.

I will do my best to do right by myself, my family & friends, my multiple communities, the ancestors, future generations and a better world. I will at times fall short. I will do the work and try again. I will continue to strive until my last breath to co-create a better world with all of you. Imperfect beings doing our best to do better.

In solidarity and with love,

Mx. Lauren Lofton, Esquire

Founder Transform Belonging

Only 14.4% of the U.S. population completes an advanced degree (census stats). Only 37% of attorneys are women (non-binary attorneys are only beginning to be included on the state level), only 4.7% of attorneys are Black, 3% are LGBT+ (though trends indicate that soon the next generation of licensed attorneys may nearly double that at 7.7%), and 2.0% are multi-racial, less than 1% self-report as having a disability (bar stats).

It is a complex and painful privilege to be a member of the bar.

Anti-Oppressive Practices

During the swell of the civil rights movement and pandemic of 2020, I watched business owners and organizations attempted to reconcile what some termed a racial reckoning. This was for many of us from historically marginalized backgrounds not new information. Business owners have made commitments to show up to racial justice and other anti-oppressive work through written pledges in a showing of allyship and accompliceship. Transform Belonging is a conflict transformation practice that strives to be anti-oppressive as it relates to all forms of marginalization and harm. This includes being actively anti-racist. Engaging in the undoing of systems of oppression is a lifelong cultural humility practice in action as a person and a business.

Transform Belonging hopes to see all systems and structures of oppression eliminated and honors and acknowledges that this may not occur during the lifetime of this business entity. Transform Belonging commits to strive everyday to live by its own stated organizational values and to engage in restorative & transformative practices when harm occurs. No one can promise to be perfect, to never make a mistake, misstep, or cause harm. Causing harm is human and inevitable. How we navigate that harm shapes the future world the generations after us will be born into. We cannot create an abolitionist world without space for harm, forgiveness and change. Transform Belonging exists to contribute to changing the shape of our future through the nurturing of anti-oppressive restorative and transformative practices and calls upon clients to do the same.

Transform Belonging’s Commitment

  1. Name white supremacy and impact of racism on both personal and professional lives - Transform Belonging teaches this including through a personal lens as an integral part of the client & consulting practice

  2. Engage in anti-racist education for you and your team, minimally of quarterly - Transform Belonging has a staff of 1 who engages in ongoing anti-racist education, led by BIPOC (Black, Indigenous, People of Color) practitioners, as well as offering this education to others as an integral part of the client & consulting practice. Transform Belonging encourages clients seeking anti-racism training to seek services from BIPOC led organizations, facilitators and trainers and to hear from a multitude of voices as well as to allocate their funds for training broadly. If a client isn’t in their learning zone and isn’t experiencing discomfort with a facilitator(s)/trainer(s) they are encouraged to work with an organizations and or facilitator(s)/trainer(s) who can explore areas of learning/growing edges. Transform Belonging has the expertise of one person living many multitudes, and does not have the expertise that comes with all BIPOC experiences and cannot speak on behalf of any community but rather from their lived experience, education and training.

  3. Commit to open-conflict and discomfort - Transform Belonging is open to engaging in restorative & transformative practices with individuals who have been directly impacted/harmed. Transform Belonging is unavailable for responses to public shaming tactics and will prioritize the founder’s mental health first and foremost while remaining available for restorative & transformative practices (processes) that put intersectionality and mental health first. Please read adrienne maree brown’s We Will Not Cancel Us and their/her additional transformative justice literature for more context on this. Transform Belonging is a staff of 1 and does not have a communications team. Transform Belonging may choose to uplift statements by those with expertise already doing this work in the world.

  4. Invest a portion of your monthly company budget (monthly and annual business operational expenses) to the Black community business services, online vendors, and freelancers - Transform Belonging invests in BIPOC, LGBT+ (queer and trans) owned companies. This is in addition to financial investments in anti-oppressive and specifically anti-racist education.

  5. Express your sincere, long-term commitment to becoming an anti-racist organization - Transform Belonging is committed to not just becoming, but rather being from its inception an anti-oppressive organization (see above) that directly engages in education rooted in anti-oppressive values including anti-racism.

 

Interested in viewing a sample of an anti-racist small business pledge?

Here is pledge was written and created, generously, by Rachel Rodgers, Ericka Hines, and Sonya Renee Taylor which outlines five clearly stated specific practices for any small business.

 

Ways to Support Movement Work & Reallocation of Resources

Every historically marginalized community is suffering world-wide. This is a symptom of white supremacy, authoritarian regimes and the way capitalism is presently operating under the current conditions. There are so many communities suffering and in need of support it is overwhelming. Not everyone is positioned to contribute financially. There are seemingly countless organizations that exist and are in need of support. I’m not able to list them all. Here is a starting point from the Bay Area Council. Transform Belonging is unable to research and provide information about all of these orgs please do your own research to confirm these organizations are in alignment with your values and contribute to their causes in the ways they purport to do so/say they’re doing.

Wealthy/Beyond Financially Secure - Your Large Sums of Money Makes Money for You as an Income Source

If you are wealthy, upper middle-class and financially secure please reallocate your resources in support of movement work. Consider ongoing contributions, large donations to organizations working in support of historically marginalized communities and understand that a current call to action from movement leaders is to actively support restorative & transformative justice, police reform (as a stepping stone) and abolition. It should not be an act of pity and is not a “hand out.” It is also an act of generosity and a gift from one community member to another and in support of our larger society. This gift supports all of us.

If the wealthiest individuals in the world reallocated even a small portion of their wealth world hunger would cease to exist. We would all be housed, clothed, fed and have access to clean water. There is enough wealth for all of us if it is reallocated. We will continue to be in the current conditions and operating under the same systems if we don’t all learn to practice giving and receiving in support of solidarity. Try to allocate to causes whose work brings you a sense of joy. Practicing giving is one way to contribute and please don’t stop there! Self-education and educating others as well as contributing to political causes that support the wellbeing of all are also crucial. If you find yourself becoming resentful consider why and how to shift your mindset. There are also many causes and you are welcome and invited to focus on communities for which you feel a personal connection. For instance, you are a survivor of violence (which transcends class) consider allocating to causes in support of survivors of violence.

Middle-Class/Lower-Middle Class - Financially Secure & Still Working Full-Time/Financially Somewhat Secure

If you fall into the middle-class and lower-middle class realm consider making direct contributions to members of your community who are trying to meet basic needs (rent, child care & elder care, food, shelter, rent/mortgage to preserve home, medications and transportation). When you may be at times paycheck to paycheck, attempting to pay down debt, responsible for student educational debt and struggling toward your own class ascension this is the most impactful way to stretch your dollars since you have less of them to contribute. There are many mutual aid funds both nation and world wide. If you aren’t connected to mutual aid in your community you are invited to contribute to non-profits as well as looking to calls to action from on the ground organizers that include mutual aid funds. You may also volunteer your time, emotional labor and educate yourself and others. Don’t forget to rest and take care of yourself. You are likely struggling yourself in a number of ways.

Those Experiencing Economic Hardship/Distress

If you are actively experiencing economic hardship/distress where your basic needs (rent, child care & elder care, food, shelter, rent/mortgage to preserve home, medications and transportation) are not met please consider practicing receiving from others with the understanding that reallocation of wealth is an act of solidarity in support of our individual and collective liberation/freedom. You get to focus on surviving from day to day. If you have access to a phone consider listening to podcasts and news in support of self-education and education of others. Know that the more you do this the more you may feel class rage build. Please be gentle with yourself.

If you need to pay less attention to the atrocities of the world and the ways you are experiencing harm in order to survive you get to do that. Know many of us are aware more than hopes and prayers are needed and that we are doing everything we can to change these conditions. Know also immediate long-term help may not come in this generation and if you can find a way to move toward more financial freedom please struggle toward that in the ways that are available to you.

 

Educational Resources

There are a vast number of educational resources on anti-oppression across multiple identities and anti-racism specifically. Please pay particular attention to Black, Indigenous, People of Color (BIPOC) communities including the Asian community (which is a vast and diverse community in and of itself). It is important you engage in your own research. Pay attention to your own lineage and ways that your family lines have impacted the historically marginalized people around you. This is true no matter your identities, because most of us experience both privilege and marginalization in some aspect of our identities. We must navigate the complexity of that reality. Those who experience a lack of belonging must overcome that core wounding to be able to do anti-oppressive work. Those who may experience privilege around most or all of their identities often find that their shame is the largest issue to navigate to be able to overcome barriers to taking responsibility for that unearned privilege.

Learn to identify where you hold privilege and where you experience marginalization and focus attention on those areas. Here is one assessment tool. A simple internet search will also provide a vast number of resources from reputable news sources such as National Public Radio’s (NPR’s) Code Switch. There are books, magazine and news articles, training, conference, mandatory work training and much more. There are too many to list here. I am particularly fond of the Racial Equity Tools from multiple organizations. If you’re already doing this work that’s great! Thank you for being in solidarity with your community. If you’re just starting your journey welcome please keep going.

History of Indigenous Land & Labor Acknowledgements

Land acknowledgments originate from indigenous practices. Acknowledging indigenous origins is one way for those without indigenous roots to move toward reconciliation and a way for those disconnected from their indigenous roots to move toward connection. Indigenous people were and remain the first stewards of the land. A land acknowledgment is a formal statement that recognizes and respects indigenous people as the original stewards of the land and for those who are not indigenous that we are occupying stolen land. Transform Belonging recognizes the education they have received about the information on this page that originates from Kanyon CoyoteWoman of Indian Canyon Nation available here via Kanyon Konsulting, LLC.

 

 Transform Belonging Acknowledges the Ohlone People

Transform Belonging is situated in Ohlone pronounced “oh-Lone-e” (also known as Costanoan) lands. More than 58 independent tribal groups are the original stewards of Bay Area land. Present day San Francisco Bay to Monterey Bay, the Big Sur Coasts and San Benito areas are within originally indigenous territories. The Ohlone people have survived multiple centuries of biocidal and genocidal policies and continue to inhabit their ancestral land. Transform Belonging is specifically located on Ramaytush land (San Francisco) and has connections to transformative and restorative practitioners in Chochenyo (Berkeley & Oakland) and Coast Miwok (Marin) lands. Learn where you are situated here. Transform Belonging actively works against ongoing settler colonialism through coaching and consulting practices.

The Ongoing Process of Accountability & Unsettlement

“If we think of territorial acknowledgments as sites of potential disruption, they can be transformative acts that to some extent undo Indigenous erasure.” - Chealsea Vowel, Métis, Beyond Territorial Acknowledgements . “A territory acknowledgment should not be seen as an item to be ticked off, but as an ongoing process of accountability and unsettlement. It should be uncomfortable. We settlers are not ‘good allies’ for doing a territory acknowledgment; it is the very least we can do. At the end of the day, we’re still here, benefitting off colonialism, dispossession, and exploitation of Indigenous land and communities.” - Kay Ho An Introduction to Settler Colonialism

Self Inquiry & Reallocation of Resources (Beyond Indigenous Acknowledgements)

We must move beyond land acknowledgments toward reconciliation. We must do all that we can to help return stolen land to indigenous stewards of the land (rematriation), supporting indigenous calls to action including activism around biocide/land destruction, prioritize access to clean water, prevent pipelines and address climate change (an result of colonialism). We must also deepen our self-inquiry to assess how we as individuals can participate in reconciliation.

 Restorative & Transformative Practices are Indigenous

Transform Belonging offers the above indigenous acknowledgment as a part of their own de-colonization practice and to honor that Transform Belonging could not exist without the restorative and transformative practices that come from indigenous practices. Community circle practices & harm circles are tools rooted in indigenous practices. Transform Belonging recognizes the history of colonialism and a need to change settler colonial societies to transfer wealth and access to resources to the original stewards of this land. This is a practices used with coaching clients, consulting clients, speaking engagements (events and institutions), rituals and ceremonies and offers the larger context for doing so. Please find ways to honor indigenous people (financial and otherwise).

Respecting Indigenous Identity & Mixed People

While our ancestral trees may connect to people of many lineages it is important to not claim indigenous ancestry with no immediate connection to indigenous family members or questionable genetic tests that are actively skewing data in the census. Check out this NPR article for more on this topic. This is disrespectful to indigenous people, as well as multi-racial/mixed people who have an immediate familial connection to their identity as Black, Indigenous, or a person of color (BIPOC). Transform Belonging’s founder does have extended family who are indigenous and engages in this acknowledgment to honor and respect their family members as well as other loved ones and community members who are indigenous.

While the founder of Transform Belonging is a born and raised San Franciscan they are not indigenous identified. If you are a born and raised San Franciscan who is not indigenous you are invited to reconsider using the word native when describing your relationship to the Bay Area.

 

 Please review the inquiries below as a starting point

  • Do you do more than acknowledge the territory in which you live and or work?

  • Educate yourself - ask:

    • What do you have to learn about the privileges you enjoy today as a result of colonialism?

    • How are violence and trauma a part of the structure of colonialism and not a thing of the past but ongoing?

    • How are you building mindfulness around present participation in colonialism?

  • Have you considered ways to develop relationships with people whose territory you are living on?

  • Are you paying attention to the geopolitical landscape where you live?

  • Do you volunteer and or donate to support indigenous causes that are in support of the land, the planet and humanity?

  • Do you consult with tribal leaders when organizing for or writing about tribal groups, and history?

  • How do you support ($upport with a capital $) indigenous-led organizations, artists, educators and activists?

  • Do you attend indigenous-organized events that are open gatherings and, or amplify these events to your community?

  • Do you contribute to critical indigenous land trusts, via land ta and or amplify to those who have resources to contribute?

    • East Bay Area residents please find the Shuumi Land Tax information in support of Ohlone people here (tax deductible!)

    • San Francisco residents please find the Yunakin Land Tax information in support of the Ramaytush Ohlone people here (tax deductible!)

    • Organizations and foundations please learn more from Justice Funders here (contributions are tax deductible!)

 

Support the Artist

Artist Micah Bazant describes this image as “the first poster in my series ‘No Pride for Some of Us Without Liberation for All of Us’. I made it in June 2014 to challenge corporate, whitewashed gay pride and to celebrate Marsha P Johnson.” Please consider supporting and amplifying the art and artist. You can purchase a print here. If you work in an activist oriented work environment you may be able to access organizational funds to buy prints for your office space.

Please consider your relationship to the LGBT+ and specifically trans community as an organization or company if you display an image like this. Ask yourself how the org or company is in solidarity with the LGBT+ community (such as through donations, employment policies & procedures, insurance benefits that prioritize safe and accessible trans healthcare, LGBT+ reproductive health care access, parental leave, etc.)

May we cultivate hope through action for the generations to come. May the cycle of harm come to an end. May a generation liberation be born into a future world we co-create together.

Transform Belonging is a Black, multi-racial/multi-ethnic, queer and trans owned business.

Transform Belonging was founded by a survivor of violence and person with a disability.